We, women, don’t need any lost sandals leading cues for princes to rescue. We don’t want any long sleeps that could be broken only by a kiss; we don’t need any stardom that could kill us with paparazzi; we don’t need any sympathy to be recognised as women. We don’t need any domestic violence that presses us to put heavy make upon; we don’t need any benevolence to be able to look after our interests, our needs, our rights. May be we don’t need any change of identity; change of surname (last name) at any point. Pets in some countries lead a better life than women in certain parts. Aren’t we one equal?
“Me too”- how is it going to change the fate of a woman? This was my original thought. But lately it dawned on me, to speak up itself is a big leap and the exploitation happening in Hollywood is just a tip of the iceberg. A baby boy’s struggle inside the womb of a mother; a woman, gives immense strength for him to dominate the “more equal” game, once he is out! It’s the right of every “man” to dominate the world, the way he desires. For women, it’s an everyday struggle right from fighting for the right to vote to equal pay act to possessing a driver’s licence; to be able to study, to attend basic needs is still a dream for many. Yaay (?), it’s not a pertinent problem limited just to the under developed or the developing countries. It’s the fight even in the developed countries by women, for women, to women; to be safer at least in the future. Physical abuse, body shaming, and luring have been happening everywhere. Power to suppress comes with money and women themselves are also part of that ‘powerful group’. That’s sickening!
It’s shocking to find ‘numbers to call’ to talk in private about any domestic violence in women’s rest rooms in certain developed countries’ maternity wards! It’s depressing to see for the same job title, a man draws more salary than a woman.
It’s a shame that ‘every’ Indian reacted, showed empathy, sympathy towards Hollywood’s ‘me too’ campaign. But when it comes to cleaning their own backyard, everyone is being ‘naive’. As a common, yet, responsible woman, I have stopped watching any Indian (I rarely watch Hollywood one’s) movie related programmes even on tele. As rightly pointed out by one lady activist on a discussion channel, can any Telugu movies be made without attempting rapes or without abusing the vulnerable on the name of casting couch? Now, for that matter, can ANY movie be made without the dirty acts? Can any work place treat women equally? Can any house/neighbourhood be safer for girl children? Can boys be raised with just and equal thoughts? Can women join hand in hand and give the vulnerable a supporting hand? Goddesses in idol form are prayed everyday for wealth and prosperity by men. But women in real life accept and succumb to the harsh brutalities.
Let’s welcome millions of to-be-men being born this second across the globe who could be deciding the fate of women across. Yet, hats off to those men, dads, husbands, sons..who celebrate the women and girls in their lives.
My two cents would be that every child, especially girls, must get trained in some form of martial arts and must carry a physically strong too, outlook! May be more boys in ballet and more girls in kick-boxing :)!